Dad

I feel you. I am 15 going on 16 and feel that way. I ask the same question, and expect for the same answers but never receive them. When I read this poem it made me show emotion cause I was looking for something that expressed what I feel, and I found it. Thank you for writing this.

I can completely relate to this. For my entire life, my father has been a workaholic who favored my brother and little sister over my older sister and me. I'm 23 now and it still hurts that he plays favorites.

Thank you, Ms. Smith, for sharing this.

I was 5 when my dad left and he remarried right after the divorce and had 3 other children with his second wife. I am 25 and I still feel like an outsider in my dad's life. My mom has always been there for me but all little girls want to be daddy's girl and I feel like it will never happen.

I loved this poem it reminded me so much of my childhood, and how I feel about my father. He was never there for me, he never said he loved me, he never hugged me, he just never cared.
It's hard not having a father, when he remarried he took on the role of father to the other woman's children. It just hurts.
Thank you for putting words to what I've always felt.

Thank you for posting this.
My father never loved me.
I am 12 years old, and he always chose my sister over me.
I guess it is because I am adopted, but I wish I still had my daddy's love.

Wow!! reading this made me reflect on my childhood without my father. As a child you feel like something is missing and it's really important to you and for you, but you can't put into words. I'm 38 now and was 5 yrs old when my parents divorced. They both immediately got remarried and had other children, I was lost in the shuffle. My father had more children and never acknowledged half of us. I always felt like I was never protected, like I was vulnerable to everything because he was never there. I was never good enough. To be back into his life now and watch and listen to how he loves and adores his step-daughter is heart-breaking because I would never get his affection or attention as his daughter. I always heard that fathers validate their children. I've been trying to be validated through so many relationships because I never received it from my father. Hopefully one day, I'll be able to move pass this and be ok, I'm still waiting.

I'm a 15 year girl. My dad lives with us but works in a different state and is only home on weekends. He never said he loved me or hugs me it hurts so bad. He is never there for any of my sports or events. 6 months ago I tried to commit suicide, he does care about his baby girl. He is drunk every night, I just wish he cared. This is a beautiful poem I cried reading this, and anyone who knows me knows I don't cry.

My daughter's father abandoned us before she was born for a home wrecker who knew he was married and about to have a baby but didn't care, he sees her hardly at all, he visits her secretly because if the woman finds out then she starts problems with me or threatens him (so he forces me to never say he's around at all). My daughter knows who her father is and loves him so much, it hurts her every time he walks out the door because he stays away for months and months at a time, till recently he married the other woman and has kids with her so he gave up on my daughter which she knows even though she is only 7 years old. Now she is not dumb and she knows everything that is going on, and she seen his Facebook page where it shows him with his other kids but doesn't have any photos at all of her, and she asked me to send him some photos of her on Facebook so to hopefully see that he put up her photos there and I did to only find out he blocked me to prevent getting photos of her and made her cry

I know this so well. My mom and dad never got married and he was never around I'm 13 now and he just started talking to me. But he remarried 4 years and I didn't know until my grandma told me. He's been there for someone else's kid more than his own. Now I have a half brother too.

Thank you for sharing this poem! I'm 37 and have struggled for years about not having my father and the pain it has caused me. No matter how hard I tried he never seemed to care. I have 5 kids of my own and they wanted a relationship with their grandfather but unfortunately having grandkids has not changed him. He disappoints them as he did me for most of my life. I can tell you that I have grown stronger because of him walking out. Funny but I do thank him for doing that. You will cry and hurt from it but don't it get the best of you. Remember he's the one missing out on a great person :-)

I can feel for you. Age 53 and still waiting. My dad had another daughter. I told him I didn't care. I'm his first. I told him to tell her to take a number 5 because after all that's where she fell in line. She was number 5 and believe me not looked upon by the first 4. Not at all. My daddy accepted someone else's son before his own. No he never looked at us. You're a good person whether you realize it or not because everything and everywhere you got was on your own. Pat yourself on the back and put on a smile because he ain't one to look to because he don't care. He's afraid of growing old alone but you were afraid growing up alone so just turn yourself forward and don't put yourself into a way that you think he owes you because all you'll be doing is living and giving to him.

At 5, my father was there but divorced so only part time and I remember it hurt when I was a kid sometimes. Now as an adult we stay in touch and I see a lonely sadness in him sometimes. I think I understand it now that I to am divorced and can't raise my son fulltime next to his mother. It's never easy being a part-time dad or having a failed relationship. It seems like it's all too often the statues quo these days.

I am now 13, my dad left my mom and I when I was 3 years old. He told me that he would be back and he never did come back. He never pays child-support and right now my mom and I are hanging pretty low. When I read this poem I broke down into tears because I feel the same way. I cried even more when I read the part about the other kids because his wife is pregnant right now. It hurts a lot but I suppose that there is a light at the end of every tunnel. I'm just waiting till it comes.

I am 38 years old reading this poem made me cry because that's the same way I felt for my father but God gave me a grandad that was awesome and looked after me like his own child. I felt that emptiness when all the children at school on fathers day they had dads besides them and they knew my grandad not my father. Now I have four beautiful children and I see them with their father and I thank God everyday for their father because he is here with us sharing every moment of their lives. I have made clear that if we ever be apart any reason don't ever break the bond he has with our children.

My mom has always been there for me, even when she criticizes me and says things that are hurtful, I cannot deny that she has given up a lot of her own life to take care of my sister and I. Until I was 11, when my parents separated, I was a Daddy's girl. I wanted to go everywhere with him, and he would let me. The last thing he told me before he left was that it was only for a little while. It has been almost 12 years since then, and in the last decade he has made no serious attempts to be my father again, has remarried and has two sons. I can't describe how much it hurts to go from being Daddy's #1 to being nothing at all. The little girl inside me is still waiting for my Dad to come back, there are still dreams I keep alive of him being there for my wedding, even though my high school and college graduations have passed with him totally unaware. I am starting to let go because these dreams are only hurting me.