Abandonment Poem

My Dad Abandoned Me Poem

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My dad abandoned me when I was 10 years old. He met a woman and decided to go and live with her in another country and everything crashed after that. At age 12 to 18 I started to cut myself,...

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© Jacqueline Uvalle

February 2006

A Lost Promise

I am not the way I used to be
I am stronger and wiser as you can see;
Remember my words, my father said
As he cradled me up and laid me to bed;
You will someday be a lady with a life of your own
With someone to love you as I have shown;
I will always be here to lend a hand
To help you and guide you when you don't understand;
Somehow I believed his words I'd see
He was not the father he promised to be;
Instead he was a man who did not care
My mother was my father because he was never there;
I often cry myself to sleep
My father's love was not mine to keep;
I miss my father I won't lie
Not a single hug or one last goodbye;
He is now a man free to roam
Not worrying of his family or coming home;
He walked out of my life and never turned my way
Oh, why Daddy, why didn't you stay?

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  • by A, Sweden
  • 3 months ago

My dad abandoned me when I was 10 years old. He met a woman and decided to go and live with her in another country and everything crashed after that. At age 12 to 18 I started to cut myself, I tried to kill myself once, I used heavy drugs and drank alcohol every single weekend, trying to forget all those questions in my head, why did he leave me? Doesn't he love me? Wasn't I pretty enough? etc. Long story short, I am 18 years old now. I don't use drugs anymore, I stopped hurting myself, I drink alcohol barely twice a month. I still feel bad about it but at least I've learn not to be self-destructive. I have contact with him every now and then but his betrayal left me scars that I'll have to learn living with.

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  • by Kate, Sydney
  • 3 months ago

My grandpa left me when I was 14, he was my daddy. My real dad died before I was born, I never met him. But my grandpa was always there. Grandpa moved overseas with my aunty, uncle and her three children. He went for a three month holiday initially and has been living there for 6 years. I miss him so much, but I'm also so angry at him for abandoning me. He was the one that was supposed to be there for me. My cousins already had an awesome, loving father, and now they have two. I miss you grandpa, please come home.

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  • by Charlie, Uk
  • 1 year ago

I was 7 when my dad moved out, then when I was about 10 my big brother and the one I trust more than anyone went to live with him. I was 2 years without him living with my mum and her abusive boyfriend. Eventually dad and my bro got into a big fight and he came home, but they haven't talked since. Then he moved out to live with his friend because he couldn't stand mums boyfriend and left me on my own again. About two years ago when I was 14 on my birthday I had a big rant with him and I haven't heard of him since. I see my bro occasionally and my mum has been very depressed and overdosed. I'm feeling really depressed too but I can't admit it to anybody because I've had to stay strong for so long I feel like nobody wants to help me. I like these little forums because I can let out my problems and know I won't be judged and I don't have to face anybody, if you are reading this I just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking a minute to hear my story.

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  • by Sheffield
  • 1 year ago

Father owned his own business and would leave the house early every morning. Finish around 5 and hit the pub. At 11 pm he'd return and argue with Mother. Repeat and you get the idea. And that's about it from what I remember from being 7 until I was 22. In the process we were encouraged to drink, smoke, and not talk about family problems. Vice solves everything apparently. Well, as I knew then and as I still know now, vice does not solve anything. And my mum is still in denial about this point, whilst dad ran away. It just diverts your attention from the core issues. And now all the problems are melting through the pores. My eldest sister is the worst off. She suffered with mental illness throughout it all, and can't deal with stress of any kind.

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  • by London
  • 1 year ago

People often say it hurts more when your "father" walks out on you at a young age. But this is not the case for me. My dad left a year ago I am now 16. My life has been a psychological roller coaster ever since. Not knowing why he left or who's fault it was. When my mum was pregnant he was 100% sure that I was a boy and as soon as he found out I was a girl he neglected me. Often choosing my older sister and trying his best to avoid me. Things got so bad that we would constantly fight and as a result I'd leave with some sort of purple bruise or belt mark across my arms and legs. Looking back makes me wonder what I did to deserve such mental and physical abuse?. Some mental images will never leave my mind, him banging my mothers head against a door nob when I was 7. I don't hate him nor have feelings towards him however I wish him all the best and pray to god that one day I shall forgive him . He was no "father" to me and I'm better of without him.

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  • by Skye, Texas
  • 1 year ago

I don't know if my father is alive or dead. He left the state when I was 16 and I am now 22 and don't know if he is alive or dead. I feel I am better off without him because all he ever did was cause me pain from his addiction to painkillers. It is really hard to accept that I will never again feel the love of my father.

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  • by Brian, Us
  • 1 year ago

My father abandoned me at age 5. He left the island saying he was going to look for work to help his family by flying to the mainland. I cried and begged him to stay but he said to not worry. He held me and my mother in his arms and promised, "Brian, we are a family. I will come back to you as soon as I can. I will never leave you guys. Ever." We even took a picture of that moment and saved it. Months turned into years and we lost contact. I'm now almost 18. About a year ago, my father found me on Facebook. Turns out, he got in to a lot of trouble and forgot about us. Including my little brother, who he has never seen before. He moved on and had four daughters. I got the chance to live with him. But each day was a nightmare. His wife's side of the family looked at me with suspicion and envy in their eyes. They despised my presence thinking I was there to have revenge. His wife hated me being around my dad, and my half siblings cursed me. Now I don't know how I feel anymore. Love? Or Hatred?

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  • by Tayiob, Nigeria
  • 1 year ago

My father died 3 years ago, leaving an aching void in my life. In his life he was brimming over with vitality, love and a sense of humor which made him loved by all. His hoarse, solemn voice is still reverberating in the house when he would call for us every day to brief him on our daily achievements, worries and tidings. He was such a loving and caring father. He was our bulwark against the vicissitudes of life.

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  • by Julia, Texas
  • 1 year ago

My father abandoned me when I was a few months old. I only saw him when I went to his parents house during holidays but he never had much to do with me while I was there. He tried to start coming around when I was 12 but he was like a total stranger to me. I felt super uncomfortable around him. He is now married and they have 2 children together. A boy and girl. It makes me sad that he abandoned me but is very much in their lives. I don't have much to do with them since they live so far away but it doesn't make it any less hurtful.

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  • by Andiswa Lembethe
  • 2 years ago

I was 4 years old when my father stormed out of my life, I couldn't understand what went wrong. I loved and respected him from the core of my heart, each and every year when it my birthday I cry wondering if he still remember my birthday or knew my age at that time, but I always get this feeling that he has forgotten or he didn't care. I only know his surname and where he live, but I still love him, if only he knew.

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  • by Brandon, Canada
  • 2 years ago

I am using this poem of yours in an anthology for my class, its fits in perfectly with my theme of bad family. I also want you to know, I know how you feel. I was living with my father for the past couple of years and the whole time, being neglected and mentally/emotionally abused by him and being left out because I'm not his girlfriend, I don't have a job, having privileges like drinks and food taken because I don't work. and being ignored when something is obviously wrong. I moved in with my mom but as I was moving in, I was with my Grandma for her final days and my father, knowing her and respecting her before I left, refused to pay respects and said these exact words to me: "I won't bother seeing you." then, my birthday, in the card he sent, it said "Happy birthday Boy" with something instead of "boy" scratched out. Then at Christmas, the card wasn't from him, but rather his company "From Calgary Patchworks, merry Christmas Brandon." That was the last straw for me, I'm done with him now.

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  • by Petu
  • 2 years ago

Well I wish I was you all. Well my story is different, my daddy was there for me growing up. He was there to abuse us physically and emotionally. I would cry every night when he started beating on my mom. I would ask my mom to run away with us to start a new life far from him. But my mom loved him too much and so she stayed. Now he's a sick man, always laying in bed. And my mom looks at me with teary eyes and says , "forgive him child and let's help him" and I say "Why should I care? Let him feel the pain he made us feel all these years" I just wish I never had a dad. And I truly mean it, my heart is full of hate and I curse him every day.

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  • by Angelique, South Africa
  • 2 years ago

I am a single mother of 2. This poem touched my heart. I am grateful to have been able to read it.

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  • by Stephanie, Colombia
  • 2 years ago

My Father left us before I was even born, but I've always asked myself why he did that! I'm 15 years old and it's hard to live with the fact that my father never asked for me, never tried to get in contact with me and that he simply never cared for me! I still cry about what has happened but life most move on.... I've always wanted a father who loves me and who is interested in me and who is around. Sadly I am not able to live that wonderful experience! =(

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  • by Sapna. India
  • 2 years ago

I have been lucky to have a good dad but this poem did touch my heart as I thought of my son. my hubby is having an affair and in spite of him promising to leave her, he still continues to be in touch with her. I can well imagine, perhaps, one day my son will go thru same and will be writing a similar poem.

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  • by Bethany
  • 2 years ago

My Daddy wanted to abort me, I finally met him when I was 18 years old, my first daughter was 4 months old, and he is still never around. I always wished I had a father to love. He is missing out on one daughter and lots of grandchildren!!

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  • by Liz
  • 3 years ago

wow. My Daddy Left Without Saying Goodbye. I never Remembered Him Growing Up And I watch home videos of My First birthday and he wasn't there? my mom said he used to live with us.. but I don't remember? I wish I did cuz I would like to at least know what if feels like to be a daddys little girl? all my friends have dads why cant I? I've seen him once.. in Ensenada Mexico.. he told me according to my mom I'm his... not something you wanna hear when your 9. and now my quinceanera (15) is coming up and still no dad to see me become a women. thanks dad:/ </3

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  • by Auckland New Zealand
  • 4 years ago

Wow this is true. My dad walked out on me when I was 1 and a half and did not say good bye. I am now 16 and I have only seen him once since and I only found him from a program called missing pieces and I have only heard from him a couple of times saying that he had two more kids. Ily daddy.

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  • by Shelby
  • 4 years ago

My dad left when I was only 2 weeks old he left for my step mom had 3 kids with her and left her, I love my step mom I wont lie I really do but my dad left me so many times and everytime I was there like last summer when I was 12 he left and I was crying yelling his name if only I had my dad in my life just maybe I wouldn't be doing the things I am now, I have to say something wrong and horrible to get him to talk to me even though it's him yelling he still talks to me then.

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  • by danielle
  • 5 years ago

my daddy walked out of my life and never took a chance to say goodbye and almost every night I cry myself to sleep listing to the song he said was ours and every time my mom sees me she says boy you look like your daddy and I'm only 11 =(

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