Daughter Death Poem

A Letter To God

When our daughter Christina drowned the day before her 4th birthday, I was 5 months pregnant with our 3rd child. With a 2 1/2 year old at home and a new baby on the way, this was a very difficult time for us. By the grace of God and lots of prayers, we did manage to get through it and go on. We still think about her, miss her and wonder every day what she would be like today. I know that she is in a better place now. We love you, Crissy. Love mommy and daddy, brother David and sister Hollie.

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I somehow came across this one night I was grieving for my daughter, who I lost shortly after birth. I have kept this poem close to heart as I can relate to it. I unfortunately am now passing...

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For My Daughter Crissy


Published by Family Friend Poems November 2011 with permission of the Author.

Gentle Savior, please look down.
There's someone by your side,
A small bewildered four year old
Who needs you as her guide.

You'll know she's Crissy if her smile
could melt a heart of stone;
She's lost, for she has never
In her short life been alone.

There was no stain on Crissy's soul,
No hatred and no fear;
You must have loved her even more
Than we who mourn her here.

When night falls, could you tuck her in,
And help her with her prayers?
I'd give so much to hear once more
Her footsteps on the stairs.

Please kiss her silky brow sometimes,
And give her joy and peace;
The glow she brought to all our lives,
Will never ever cease.

Written by her mother in loving memory of Christina Lynn Barber
born: September 17, 1976
died: September 16, 1980


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  • Jeanie by Jeanie
  • 6 years ago

I somehow came across this one night I was grieving for my daughter, who I lost shortly after birth. I have kept this poem close to heart as I can relate to it. I unfortunately am now passing this on to a really good friend who is like my sister. She lost her 3 year old daughter today due to a pool accident and her daughter drowned. My sister and her precious baby girl have been through so much in her short life. Alyssa's father tried to take her little life at 6 months old. My sister fought so hard for her, and thankfully got the justice Alyssa deserved. My sister was able to finally move on with her and her daughter's lives. A good life and start in Florida a few years ago and even found happiness with her husband who took Alyssa as his own daughter and treated her like that and had a little brother left behind now. I can only hope my sister finds comfort in this written poem as I did. Thank you for sharing this with us. It is helping so many to cope with the loss of our children.

  • Kathy Abraham by Kathy Abraham
  • 6 years ago

You're welcome. I hope it brings you comfort and peace.

  • Jose Varela by Jose Varela, NM Usa
  • 9 years ago

We lost our oldest daughter Amanda Aug 30 2013 in a car accident 1.5 months after she graduated high school. Age 18
Miss her very much...

Message to Isabella's Mommy - I too, blamed myself for my daughter's passing. Absolution will come, but it does take time. You are in my prayers.

  • Joan Houtz by Joan Houtz, Pennsylvania
  • 10 years ago

Your poem really tugged at my heart. I lost my daughter, Chrissy, four years ago and it still hurts. You have my love, prayers and sympathy. I know how it feels to lose someone who is so dear to you.

  • Isabella's Mommy :( by Isabella's Mommy :(
  • 11 years ago

What a beautiful poem.. It's amazing how such beautiful words just flow when writing about someone you love so dear, in this case for your special "Crissy"... My daughter drowned at 11 months and it's been so recent. My world has tumbled down and fallen on my shoulders.. The guilt and pain I carry won't allow me to see gods light. I wonder how one can overcome this loss feeling like I do. Can you please reach out to me I need help from parents whom have lost a child due to drowning. Please I beg for help as I feel all alone. Before this happened to me I would be the first to say this only happens to bad parents but that is so NOT true!! I am ashamed for judging without even knowing the parents as I'm no one to judge and have been on my knees so many times asking god to forgive me as I was so wrong for thinking that. Now that I'm forced to walk this bridge I have learned that these accidents usually happen to the most caring loving parents and that we are only human and make mistakes :'(

  • Shannon Reed by Shannon Reed
  • 5 years ago

This post was from 6 years ago, but I know you must still miss your daughter every day. I hope you have been able to forgive yourself because God most certainly does not condemn you. The enemy will try and hide the love and light of God from you, but nothing can separate you from His deep and everlasting love. He loves you so much and mourns with you in your loss. If you read through the Bible you will see that even the prophets, priests, kings, and disciples were all sinners and yet God wrote their stories as His story to show that He can redeem ANY situation, tragedy or person. You have been made whole through the sacrifice of Jesus. Live in God's love and pass it on! Peace be with you, friend!

  • Miles Bonifield by Miles Bonifield, TX
  • 8 years ago

God is the only thing that should matter. But the main reason I brought up Ecclesiastes is because it talks about bad things happening to good people. Solomon basically states that it is the "state of the World". Bad things happen to good people bad things happen to bad people. Good things happen to good people, good things happen to bad people. He also talks about God does not want us to be miserable but to eat, drink and be merry. I know it is very hard to be merry when your heart hurts but a day will come when you can be merry again. I'm 8 months out since the death of my second and I'm starting to feel like myself again. I miss the hell out of those girls and I fight the memories daily but you have to keep living and keep living your destiny. God will bless me with a child someday and let me be merry but until then I'll find myself on websites like these. We did start a charity to honor our girls www.ourchildrensblessing.com.

  • Miles Bonifield by Miles Bonifield, TX
  • 8 years ago

Isabella's mommy,

I saw your post and wanted to respond. I hope you are doing ok. I noticed that this was 2 years ago and hopefully the weight has left your shoulders. My wife and I have lost two daughters in the last 2 years. Evelyn was 11 days old and Scarlett was 2 months old and they passed away from natural causes. My wife and I have the exact same reccessive gene that both girls received. Counseling has helped me out tremendously with depression and anxiety but I've also found a ton of philosophy and truth to a book in the bible. I don't know if you are a Christian or not but this book applies to everyone and has so much truth to it. Ecclesiastes. Take an hour to read it, it is very short. King Solomon wrote this book and he wrote it near the end of his life. He was a very rich king and had 700 wives and was richer than Bill Gates. At the end of his life he starts to realize that the money, fame, women are all meaningless...

  • Kathy by Kathy Poet
  • 11 years ago

Dearest Nukala Family,
As I respond to your post about losing your daughter the same way I did and only one year older than Crissy, it brings back a flood of emotions. Please try to keep the good memories of your precious daughter while she was alive in the forefront and as hard as it seems try not to dwell on the loss. Prayers, patience and time will help ease the pain but she will always be with you in your heart. That seems like a monumental task I know, however, just take it one day at a time.
Prayers for your family,

  • Laksh Nukala by Laksh Nukala
  • 12 years ago

This is a very moving and emotionally touching poem. My wife and me are mourning for the loss of our five year old daughter who drowned this January (2012). The episode is still raw and gut wrenching and the days we spent in the Hospital praying and hoping for her to recover are still so fresh. We are still to come to an acceptance of the finality of her passing.

Thank you for sharing and please do let me know how you cope with such a huge loss.

This is so very beautiful and touched my heart so much. Thank you for sharing. Very beautifully written. May God bless your family.

  • Stacy Lynn Stiles by Stacy Lynn Stiles
  • 12 years ago

What a beautiful tribute, to a beautiful little girl. So very sorry for your loss :(. Thank you for sharing this excellent piece of Crissy with us!

My very warmest best,

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