A Birth Mother's Promise

• by Elliana
• 3 years ago

I am an adoptive child and it's hard to know the one who gave birth to you had to give you away, but you see my birth mom sadly was involved in drugs and sex and she still is, so really I was a mistake. She was high when she had me, and I came out unhealthy, but I'm ok now. It just crushed me every single day to know the one who gave me life really didn't want me. When she realized she was pregnant with a girl she started getting mad because she wanted a boy. She wasn't happy with a girl. Till this day im still crushed, but I'm learning you can't change the past. Once it happens there's no going back.

• by Dizzy Rach Campbell, wales,United Kingdom
• 5 years ago

Hi all and thanks for creating this page. First time mum at 31. I gave birth to twin girls 16/12/2017. I felt the happiest I had in years when seeing/holding them for the first time. Five days later, they were in foster care. I didn’t even get to bring my little girls home. Two reports of mishandling from midwives. 17/5/2019 was my last contact. I was breaking inside. I had to make the most of it for the girls. 27/5/2019 I had the opportunity to meet the people who adopted them. They were a young couple who seemed nice and genuine. They tried to conceive for 6 years. I know my girls will be very much loved and cared for and given a life I could only dream of. They’re together, so they will always have each other. It’s heartbreaking. I’m crying myself to sleep. It’s like a rollercoaster. I’m running myself into the ground to stay busy. Otherwise, I dwell on things, overthink stuff, and am very hard on myself. My mum died when I was 11, so I wish I had her to talk to. I bottle most of it up. I’m so isolated and have feelings of guilt. Being able to talk about it and read what others are going through is a weight off my shoulders. I don't feel as alone. I pine for my girls and miss them so much.

• by Sasha Deeter, Ottumwa Iowa
• 10 years ago

I am a birthmother, I placed my daughter for adoption because I could not give her the things she needed nor the life I wanted for her! I think about her and her adoptive parents, I don't regret my decision! I will always love my little girl! If it weren't for her and my other two daughters I wouldn't be working on getting my life on track so that one day all 3 of my girls will look at me and say I'm proud of you mom! I am so thankful that god blessed my little Morgan with two amazing Christian parents and I am thankful he gave me the opportunity to meet them as well!!! I get updates on how the 3 of them are doing! It makes my heart sinks with great joy! I will always be forever grateful!!