Missing You Poem

Adoption Poem From Birth Mother Letting Go

The hardest thing I've ever had to face was letting go of my children. The healing process had its challenging moments, but with time, and a lot of prayer, I managed to get through the same heartache that so many mothers know all too well.

Adoption isn't the end of your life. It isn't the end of the world, and it definitely isn't the end of your every happiness. It's actually the very beginning of receiving countless gifts and blessings that you never knew before.

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I also gave my 5-year-old daughter up for adoption to a member of my deceased husband's family! I only saw her a few times after, and it broke my heart the times when I did get to see her!...

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For My Children


Published by Family Friend Poems November 2007 with permission of the Author.

I remember my pregnancy with you
I fell in love with your every move, and with the sound of your beating heart.
I held your precious body in my arms for the first time and took in your sweet, angelic presence.
Nothing could prepare me for what would lie ahead.
Nothing could prevent my heart from breaking, but it had to be done.
I tried to be strong, but my strength failed me.
I never knew it would be so difficult to write my own name.
I cried and was grateful for all the precious memories you've given me.
It was a new beginning for you.
The healing was beginning for me.
Time went forward, I learned and grew as I slowly let go of you.
My heart was healed, my life was blessed and my prayers were answered.
Still, there are days when I cry.
I will never stop thinking about you.
Still I wonder about the person you are now and the person you've yet to become.
I pray that you will always know of the love I have for you.
It's only through the grace of God that you were mine for a time.
He gave you to me, I lovingly obeyed his plans for you.


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  • Diana Dieter by Diana Dieter
  • 7 years ago

I am sharing this poem with my daughter who is turning 23 tomorrow. I think about her every day and hold on to seeing her again. I was blessed to have a visit from her and her loving parents back in July 2005. Letting go will never happen.

  • Jane Edwards by Jane Edwards
  • 4 years ago

Thank you for sharing. I, too, gave my baby up at birth. I felt honored to be able to give that gift to someone that was waiting 10 years to adopt. Her birthday is tomorrow, July 2. She will be 40! I wish I could find her. I pray that I will see her again one day.

  • Laura Jackson by Laura Jackson
  • 7 years ago

I have a 2 month old daughter I cannot take care of, and I have to sign over my rights next Wednesday. This poem really helped me. Thank you.

  • Denise by Denise
  • 6 years ago

You can only do what you feel is truly best for your child. Bless you for sacrificing and making this choice to give her a better life. I pray for peace for you during this time.

  • Jo Anne Daniel by Jo Anne Daniel
  • 7 years ago

I live each day with the guilty feelings for giving my 1 year old little girl up for adoption. I can't forget her little face sitting in the car seat the day we parted. The pain never goes away...

  • Jessica by Jessica, Phoenix AZ
  • 9 years ago

I love this poem. For so long I've looked for someone that actually understands. I asked family to adopt my son for his safety. Then when I had my daughter I asked her wonderful mom to adopt her because I felt like it would be wrong to keep the second when I couldn't the first. He was 5 and remembers everything she was adopted at birth. I love them both more than I ever knew possible and I pray everyday that somehow the pain will get better. It's been 5 years and it's still so hard. Thank you for your poem. I would love to print it for my photo album.

  • Lanette Greeley by Lanette Greeley, CO
  • 9 years ago

I was 36 when I got pregnant with twin boys. I was not supposed to be able to get pregnant and then twins to boot. I was involved in the meth world and did not want to be a welfare mom. I was also adopted as was my older sister Janet. I was able to pick the adoptive parents. They have the same last name I did before I was adopted. Their mom got pregnant once and lost the baby. At that time she found out she had lupus so she didn't try again. My twins were born on her due date and the day before her birthday. It was meant to be and I have never regretted my choice. It is very hard when I see them but it was the best decision for them. That's what adoption is about.

  • Cara-Marie Simpkins by Cara-Marie Simpkins Poet
  • 9 years ago

Oh how my heart aches for each of you!
I wish there were a way to remove all your pain, hurt, heartache and uncertainty.
I wish there were a way to heal your broken, shattered hearts, to dry your tears, and to promise brighter, happier tomorrow's. All I can say is a Mother's love knows no depths, no limits, no boundaries when it comes to eternal, unyielding love for a dear child.
Take heart in knowing that one day, you may again know joy, happiness and tender moments that only a child can bring. Those moments that you will love and adore everyday. A child for you to keep, snuggle, diaper, bathe, worry over, pick up after, play silly games with, teach, guide, nurture and love more than the very breath you breathe.
All will be well in the end. It always is.

  • Jane Edwards by Jane Edwards
  • 4 years ago

Thank you for your kind words. I have never regretted my decision and would do it again in a baby's heartbeat. God has blessed me over and over. I now have 3 children and 4 grandsons! God is great!

  • Beverley by Beverley
  • 9 years ago

I was 22 years old I had my daughter taken into adoption with no chose of my own. She was taken from me. That was the worst day of my whole life. I have letter and pics twice a year. She knows who I am. I have 5 years left of this heartache.

  • Teresa Chapman by Teresa Chapman
  • 5 years ago

I also gave my 5-year-old daughter up for adoption to a member of my deceased husband's family! I only saw her a few times after, and it broke my heart the times when I did get to see her! The days and years passed with no communication until after she married and had a child of her own! We found each other again, and I tried to be a part of her and her family's life! It was great for 10-12 years and then the nightmare started! She disappeared from my life just as I had disappeared from hers when she was a child! It's been 4 years since I have seen her or my grandson, and it's literally tearing the life out of me! I pray for peace and for happiness again someday, but honestly, I don't believe it is possible! I will go to my grave grieving over the child that I walked away from!

  • Heather by Heather, Maine
  • 10 years ago

I gave my 2nd daughter up at birth took her back at 2 months and gave her back at 18 months to same family. They adopted her. I miss her like crazy it hurts so bad.

  • Cheryl Taylor by Cheryl Taylor, Salt Lake City
  • 10 years ago

At age 69, I still have tears when reading about adoptions. I was given up as a baby and am so grateful for my adoptive parents and the wonderful life of love I had. They both passed away before I was 27 years old. I never gave up looking for my birth family. Just 7 years ago I found my birth mother was still alive, and older half brother whom she kept and raised and a wonderful step father. All of us bonded when we met. Since then both my mother and brother have passed away. Always remember when you give a child a chance at a new life, some day you will meet that child again whether in this life or the next. But always be proud of the fact that you gave the gift of a better life to your child. That is a mother's undying love and the ultimate sacrifice. Your child will always know how difficult it was for you to make that choice.

  • Grand Rapids Michigan by Grand Rapids Michigan
  • 10 years ago

I am 33 years old and gave my baby girl up for adoption. I was very close to the adopted mom through my pregnancy and she went to all my appoinments with me and was in the delivery room when I gave birth! I held her so close to me because I knew I didn't have much time left! I promised the adopted mom that I wouldn't bail on her and she would keep her promise that I would be in her life even though I wanted to keep my baby more then anything but knew I couldn't provide for her like her adopted parents could! I was devastated that when she took the baby home and after the court hearing, she told me she didn't want nothing to do with me and to stay away from her daughter and family! I was heartbroken and tried even taking my own life! I felt like, what have I done! I gave away my own flesh and blood and I didn't want to live anymore knowing what I'd done! It took all the strength I had to just get outta bed! I wanted to sleep away the pain! Then I realized one day that I made the ultimate sacrifice to make someone a mother that otherwise couldn't have her own and that made me feel good and as the days and months went on, it got easier everyday and then my adopted babies mom contacted me offering pictures and updates and ultimately, visits! I am so thankful for my babies adopted family! After the all bad came so much good!

  • Leah by Leah, Anchorage
  • 10 years ago

I was 23 when I gave my son up for adoption. That was the hardest decision to go through. I never knew what it was like till I gave my son up. I took him back and kept him for three months and had to gave him up again. I cried as if someone died. It hurt so much and I had to be strong for my three older children. My oldest child remembers me giving my son up. She caught me crying really hard one day and it made her cry also. He is now four years old. I still cry here and there. When we see each other, it's like he knows there is a connection between us. (I gave him up to my brother and his wife.) I will always love him as my other children. He is in our hearts forever.

  • Lelethu by Lelethu, Johannesberg
  • 10 years ago

My two lovely boys stay in a shelter so I have to make a decision to give them up for adoption. It's really painful to make that decision because they are the only hope I have in this world they bring me joy when I'm with them but at the end I have to do what's best for them whatever decision I am going to make, let it be God choice

  • Jesup by Jesup, GA
  • 10 years ago

I am 26 years old and a little slow. It is not some thing I that really wanted to do. I just gave him up yesterday, my sweet two year old baby boy. I have not left my room all day. All I can see is him but at least he is going to two loving parents. A real home I can't give him. I can't drive him back and forth like they can. I can't give him things like toys or new clothes like they can. I can't give him all that. See I'm not too bright. I don't spell or read all that well either so all I can get is a fast food job. I have no father to help me and no family to give me the support that I need. I am on my own. So I did what any mother would do, when they love their baby as I do in order to give them a real chance on life. But it does not come with out pain. Will it ever get better? Will I ever leave my room? Will he know that I do this because I love him so much? This is hoping for a better tomorrow.

  • Brittany by Brittany, Detroit
  • 11 years ago

I was 16 years old when I got pregnant, 17 when I had the most beautiful, bright eyed, curly headed baby girl. I raised my baby for 6 months. Being so young with such a big responsibility was even harder than I prepared myself. I ran away from a problem at home and took her to her great Aunt and Uncles house. It would hurt my heart literally to go see her and she not know who I am. She's now two years old, and it still hurts me that she doesn't call my mommy. But I can only blame myself. Now she's been adopted. But she is being loved and cared for beyond this world. And as soon as I can get myself together I plan to be the best thing in her life.
Thank you so much for this poem.

  • Cara-Marie Simpkins by Cara-Marie Simpkins Poet
  • 11 years ago

Thank you for your kind replies. We all have our own stories, and life leads us down different paths. As women, we are very strong, and very resilient. No matter what, we somehow manage to make it through the darkest, saddest moments better individuals than what we were at the beginning of our very personal trials and challenges life handed us.

  • Inga by Inga, Denver Co
  • 11 years ago

Wow this poem real tells how I feel and says everything I would have said. I am 29 now but when I was 21 I had 2 children taken away and adopted. I was so hurt and angry but I knew it was for the best. I was going through a lot in my life and I had lots of things I needed to work on. Things have changed so much since then :-) I have been living a happy sober life now for a little over 5 years now and just got married last year in September to the best man I have ever meet in my life. I just hope that one day my children will see me living a good life and understand why I had to give them up. I love you both so much and I think about you everyday and I pray for the day I will get to see you.

  • Lita- Mi by Lita- Mi
  • 12 years ago

I was 19 when I had my angel, but by the time she was 23 months old I had the hardest thing to do was to give her up. It was an open adoption, but that did not work out. Her bio-father was abusive from the start, I was too blind to see what I was getting into.
She is now almost 31 and we are now in contact, but it is slow but only time will tell how things work out for us.
I loved her when I had her and I still love her now. LeeAnne is my world, even if it takes all my life to show her. I love her and miss her so much.
I guess God only knows when that time will come for us both.

  • Latasha Turpin by Latasha Turpin, Chattanooga
  • 12 years ago

I gave my two Beautiful daughter up for adoption...the final hearing is in 3 weeks and it's killing me...this was the hardest decision I've ever made in my life. But I know it's for the best and they are happy and healthy and that's all that matters....I hope they know I love them......This poem hit ever key point I wanted to say and feel.....

  • Brittany by Brittany
  • 12 years ago

I am 19 years now, and I gave my daughter up for adoption when I was 18, I had her for 6 months and it was the hardest thing I ever had to do, her father was abusive and I was alone and I knew I had to make the right choice for her, I am still healing, it's an open adoption but that doesn't make it any easier, I can't wait to hug my baby girl again. I miss you so much Alana, Always my little angel!

  • Cara-Marie Simpkins by Cara-Marie Simpkins Poet
  • 12 years ago

Adoption is a very heart breaking decision. All a biological Mother can do is hope and pray that her child or children will be understanding, forgiving adults, and will love her for the difficult decision she made.

  • Cheryl by Cheryl, Tx
  • 12 years ago

I gave my 3 beautiful children up for adoption! I didn't want to but had to! I had issues that had to be taken care of! It was the hardest day of my life! I know that they are being taken care of and they are happy! I couldn't be selfish, I had to do what was best for them! I hope that someday they will understand why I had to do it! That poem touched my heart!

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