Husband Death Poem

I was married to my wonderful husband for 46 years - it wasn't enough! My husband loved classic cars and spent lots of his leisure time working on them. We had two wonderful sons. The last ten years were difficult. His health took a downward spiral. He had over 15 bladder cancer operations and many other health challenges, but his concerns were always for his family. He was amazing! I am so lost without him. Despite the title of my poem, I know where he is - in heaven!!

Featured Shared Story

I identify with many of your grief stories. My husband of almost 35 years died on Christmas Day 2017. He bravely fought cancer for two years. He was an amazing man, a wonderful husband, a...

Read complete story

Share your story!

Where Are You?

©

Published: January 2017

Why has He taken you from me?
Torn from my side, where you should be.
Forty-six years we lived as one     
To stand stronger than we had begun.

You're deep within my heart each day,
The love I crave each time I pray,
The arms I need to hold me tight,
To rid each wrong and make it right.

Your valor was beyond the norm.
You weathered each and every storm.
Whatever challenges you faced,
You conquered with courage and grace.

Unlike you, I'm not self-assured.
Whatever strength I showed was yours.
You held my hands and quelled my fears.
You helped me smile and dried my tears.

Where are you? Are you very near?
Are you so close that you can hear
My voice pleading for one more day,
Just one, before you're lured away?

They say that time will ease the pain,
Yet days fly by and grief remains.
I miss you! Do you miss me, too?
Are you happy, Love? Oh, where are you?

Advertisement

Advertisement

  • Stories 12
  • Shares 639
  • Favorited 10
  • Votes 272
  • Rating 4.44
  • Poem of the Day
Has this poem touched you? Share your story!
  • Joan Conlan by Joan Conlan
  • 8 months ago

I identify with many of your grief stories. My husband of almost 35 years died on Christmas Day 2017. He bravely fought cancer for two years. He was an amazing man, a wonderful husband, a fabulous father and a doting grandfather. We all miss him so much. It hurts, but we keep going by remembering him. We have three fabulous adult children who are also grieving. One is married and has three children, so the cycle of life continues. They bring such joy; the pure love they give and receive is uplifting.

Life has changed so much. While having great family and friends, it is not the same. We were so united in all that we did, the empty space left behind is palpable. It's one day (hour /minute) at a time for me at the moment. Mindfulness is a huge help. Being in the moment stops me worrying about the future and pondering over the past. So to all of us who have the shared experience of the death of our husbands…

"May you be well
May you be happy
May you have peace of mind."
Light and love,
Joan Conlan

  • Angelina Sansone by Angelina Sansone
  • 8 months ago

Hello Mrs. Mandry,
I was searching the internet, helping my friend cope with the passing of her father, and I came across your poem to Mr. Mandry. I am saddened to hear of his passing. My family and I send our deepest condolences to you and your family. You and your husband will always have a special place in my heart. Love always, Angelina Sansone

  • Karen L. Warner by Karen L. Warner
  • 1 year ago

My husband and I were married for 37 years and together for 41. He passed away suddenly on Good Friday of this year from a blood infection. He had diabetes and heart disease, but they were being well-managed. He was only 61 years old. We loved each other deeply and were each other's best friend. We had so many plans for the future once I retired. I am devastated. The only thing that gives me the desire to go on is my faith in God and my children and grandchildren. I know that taking my life would be a sin and I would never get to see him again. Also, my children would be heartbroken. I find it very hard to have any interest in doing anything more than the basics. I live alone, so there's no one to chastise me about cleaning or cooking. I was a very fastidious homemaker until now. My husband was disabled and retired due to 4 back surgeries. Being home, he took care of paying the bills, mostly online, and the cars' maintenance, insurance, etc., which is my job now. I just wish I could see him again!

  • Elizabeth Castello by Elizabeth Castello
  • 1 year ago

My husband passed away on June 12, 2016. He had Congestive Heart Failure and Diabetes (since March of 2015). My husband was disabled with short term memory. He had surgery to correct seizures he had since he was 9 years old, and when he was 15, and he had surgery to correct the seizures, but it left him with short term memory loss. That is why he was on SSD. We were married for 21 years. It would of been 22 on July 15, 2016, but he didn't make it that far, but I would not have wanted him suffering that long. He is with our Heavenly Father now and is a free spirit now. No more worries and no more suffering. I do miss him, but I know I will see him again one day. We do have a handsome son who will be 23 in JULY. He lives with my in-laws. They helped raise our son. He is a very fine young man. I am so proud of him and love him very much. I, like Karen, wish I could see my husband again. We had a hard life, but we made it through until the end of my husband's life.

  • Margaret Girvin by Margaret Girvin
  • 1 year ago

My husband passed away suddenly from an aneurysm five years ago this month after 43 years of marriage. I was seventeen and he was nineteen when we got married. He was my life-long friend, companion, and soul mate. He had a heart of gold and would have done anything for anyone. I still can't get my head around things. I didn't get a chance to say my goodbyes. I was working on night duty and came home the next morning to find him laying in the bathroom already passed away. I just keep looking for something and I don't know what. Maybe I keep thinking he is still going to walk through the door. Don't believe it when people say time heals. It hasn't for me, and I don't think it ever will. I miss James so much. He left me with four wonderful children, who have been my rock, and eleven grandchildren. As much as I love and adore them, nothing in this world will take the place of my husband. My prayer is that he is resting in the arms of God and we will meet again one day.

  • Carol Howell by Carol Howell
  • 1 year ago

I lost my husband suddenly 5 years today after 36 years married. He was not sick and had no illness, but he died from a massive brain aneurysm. The specialist couldn't see where the blood was coming out. It was so badly damaged. I just wished I could've said goodbye. We had our children young, so we were to live to an old age together, enjoying life. He had good genes. His grandparents lived into their 90's. It has been so hard without him. He was my love, my life, my best friend. He was worried about me as I had just had a hip replaced because I have osteoarthritis, which is why I said it should have been me who died first. I've also lost my dad, mum, sister, and now my husband, best friend, my rock, my love for life. I still can't believe that he has gone. It's like living in a nightmare, and I just wish I could wake up.

  • Joan Duckett by Joan Duckett
  • 1 year ago

I lost my husband from the same thing three years in April. He was my rock, best friend, and lover. We lost a son thirteen years ago. He took his own life. I just wish I could join them. Life has to go on they say, but mine has stopped.

  • Elizabeth Castello by Elizabeth Castello
  • 1 year ago

Hi, my name is Lisa. I lost my husband on June 12, 2016. He had Congestive Heart Failure and Diabetes. He was a good man, just misunderstood by my family, except my Dad and Step-Mom liked him. They understood his disability, but my brother and sisters didn't understand him at all. They thought he should have known they didn't want to understand him anyway. He was 49 years old when he passed away. Too young. I had 2 moms that passed away at 49 years old too. It will be 2 years this year on June 12, 2018. The years go by so fast, too fast. Time flies by so fast. I live with my Dad now since my husband passed away. I feel God and the angels are watching out for us. My Dad is 94 years old, I am very blessed to still have him with us. I also have a son. He is 22. I'm very lucky I have him and my Dad and my in-laws too. I was married a wonderful 21 years at the time my husband passed. We had a hard life but loved each other very much.

  • Grace A. Mandry by Grace A. Mandry Poet
  • 2 years ago

Dear Margaret,
I'm so sorry to learn of your husband's illness. Watching his day-to-day decline must be terrible. My husband's illnesses were extreme and numerous. Despite what my husband suffered and what you and your husband are presently suffering, we have got to appreciate how lucky we were to have married such wonderful men. I know what you mean about doing errands without him. I never learned how to drive (BIG MISTAKE!!), so wherever I had to go, Bob was my ride. I am now dealing with vasovagal syncope (fainting). It's not life-threatening. The most dangerous thing is where you fall. Even my sons are nervous about driving me because I become completely unresponsive when it happens and it's frightening for them. So I'm almost housebound. Don't mind it, but without Bob, it can get really lonely. I was an only child, so I am used to the loneliness, but I miss the shopping!! I do hope your husband remains stable so you can have him longer than you expect. God Bless you both.

  • Annie Legg by Annie Legg
  • 2 years ago

My husband of 28 years passed away unexpectedly nearly six months ago. I'm still at the angry stage of my grief because I spent too long in denial and thought I should be strong and that I could cope...silly me...he was my everything and I'm so cross he's left me all alone. We were a team. We supported each other, so I can understand where the author's coming from. To suddenly have your life partner taken away feels like you've been cut in half.

  • Margaret Juritsch by Margaret Juritsch
  • 2 years ago

Dear Annie,
My heart goes out to you, and I have no words to console you. I could have written how you described your relationship with your late husband. I have not lost my husband yet, but am losing a little bit of him every day as he is suffering from Alzheimer's disease and other complications. Although he is still here, I am grieving over the sadness he feels and the life we no longer have. And although my days are filled with pain, sorrow and sadness, I know that my life is still better with him even though he is no longer the man he used to be: my life, love, best friend, and buddy. When I am out there now doing errands alone, I too feel as if I'm cut in half, walking around like in a trance. May your sad heart find peace in the knowledge that you were given the rare gift of true love even so it did not last a lifetime.
With warmest sympathy,
Margaret

  • Grace A. Mandry by Grace A. Mandry Poet
  • 2 years ago

Hi Annie - It has now been five years since my husband passed away. It's ironic how similar our feelings are - I, too, tried to be strong and cope with all he once used to do, and despite the myriad of illnesses he suffered, I guess I should have been more prepared for his death, but I wasn't. He rarely complained - always more concerned with me and our sons than himself. We had the habit of always holding hands when we walked together - almost as if we took comfort in knowing that we belonged to each other - like a team, Annie. I'm so sorry for your loss. Yours is a relatively new one, and I know how painful that can be. However, when I think of the many wonderful years we shared that so many others never have, it helps to put it in perspective. I hope you have other family to help you through it. I am an avid scrapbooker and I am creating a tribute album in his honor. It does help. God Bless You, Annie and help to ease your grief.

Sincerely,
Grace

Back to Top