Mother Daughter Poem

Absent Mother Poem

To this day I still don't understand why mothers choose a man over their own flesh and blood...

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I'm only 12, but my mom met this guy and she got so into drugs that she forgot about me (and the dogs). To this day, I hate what she did. She cheated on this guy while he was in jail for her....

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Published: March 2008

Why did you do the things you did?
Why did you say the things you said?
Why did you change who you are?
Why did you choose a man over your own daughter?
Why did you hurt me?
Why did you break my heart?
Why did you betray me?
Why did you break your promises?
Why did you have to break up our once "happy family" apart?
Why are you so evil?
Why weren't you there for me?
Why!?

Where were you when I needed you?
Where were you when I was sick?
Where were you when I cried?
Where were you when I was sad?
Where were you when I needed help?
Where were you when I was scared?
Where were you when I was troubled?
Where were you when I had no one?
Where were you when I needed a mother?
Where were you!?

What happened to my mother?
What is wrong with you?
What do you think of?
What are you doing?
What is more important than me?

When are you going to go back to being the mother I once had?
When will you realize what you've done?
When will you take off that blindfold you have?
When will you care?
When!?

Who was there for me when I needed someone...not you!
Who did I go to when I needed help...not you!
Who always encouraged me to do better...not you!
Who was there to wipe my tears away...not you!
Who taught me right from wrong...not you!
Who helped me overcome my fears...not you!
Who showed me the love I needed...not you!

Because of you, it's hard for me to love another person.
Because of you, it's hard for me to have faith in people.
Because of you, it's hard for me trust a soul.
Because of you, I must remain a motherless daughter.
Because of you, it's hard for me to open my heart to others.
Because of you, it's hard for me to believe someone when they say, "I love you."
All because of you!

See what you've done to me!

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  • by Katie
  • 6 months ago

I'm only 12, but my mom met this guy and she got so into drugs that she forgot about me (and the dogs). To this day, I hate what she did. She cheated on this guy while he was in jail for her. My brother, Logan, died on his first birthday because of her doing drugs. All of the questions in this poem are what I want to ask her.

  • by Stacey
  • 11 months ago

Yes, thanks everyone for sharing your stories. I am so sorry to hear these stories. It's unimaginable. I don't feel alone in my feelings about my mother. She died a year ago and left her entire estate to her husband, including personal belongings. Her third husband who cheated on her with her hairdresser (among others) and never held a job. She knew she was dying, and up until her last breath told us lies that my brother and I would be covered. Of course we weren't. I don't look for handouts nor am I entitled, but I wanted the truth. A month after her passing I got cancer and have had to go through so much to figure out how to get by. So yes, I was angry, disappointed. It's so crazy and backward to think flesh and blood would be passed over for a narcissistic spouse. Everyone saw it, but she refused to acknowledge it. More damage done with him than without. I have learned a lot. This did not break me; it taught me. I am stronger and wiser as a result.

  • by J Dana Deal
  • 1 year ago

This story touched my heart. I am 51 years old and at the age of 45 had a massive stroke. I was in the best shape of my life. A few years later, my mother met a man. I encouraged her to go for "lunch." She said she wasn't ready. It's sad every day for me and my identical twin sister. We were all so close. My health condition is what really really blows my mind. HOW/WHY WOULD any mother do this? Is it the boyfriend that is so insecure of her sick daughter? My sister and I will never understand this. She is our mother, our blood. I will never understand. For this 19 year old gal, I am so sorry. I understand. It's NOT right. I will think of you often.

  • by Ashley
  • 2 years ago

I am currently dealing with this now and I feel more alone than ever. I am currently 19 years old living with my grandpa 45 minutes away from my school and boyfriend because my mom chose her boyfriend, who has narcissistic personality disorder, over her own daughter. My parents divorced when I was only three and since then I've seen my mom will a million guys. None of them worth a crap. But this one is by far the worst. He constantly would mentally abuse my mom and me or tell us something about our weight. (I'm 5'0 and 119lbs) He's left and come back into our home at least 4 times. The last time, my mom told me she wouldn't let him back in. I go out of town for one night and Bam, she's sleeping at his house. I've cried to her, begging not to take him back. I've had nightmares about him. & now its like my nightmares are reality. I gave her an ultimatum and can you guess who won? PS she's only known him for 2 years., I need help on how to deal with this. We used to be so close..

  • by Claire Jagels
  • 1 year ago

Ashley,
I know how horrible it is when your parent doesn't seem to care about you and puts others first CONSTANTLY. My father constantly fights with my mom and puts his extended family before us. I really resent him and am angry that he won't try to change. But I also think he is such a damaged person, I almost have to forgive him. I think you know that your mother is doing these things, not because she doesn't care. She is just stuck: emotionally, physiologically, mentally. Her heart is so hurt she feels like she can't exist without a man by her side. Right now, the only way for her to find the security she needs to be a great person and mother to you is to pray. Pray that she can find healing in God the father. Pray that your relationship can be healed by the love of God. God ALWAYS listens to you. No matter how deep the sorrow or how black the night, He will deliver you. I really feel your pain and I'll be praying for you. Stay strong!!

  • by David, Ontario
  • 3 years ago

I think the hardest part is the lack of closure. I watched my mother's actions speak louder than her words as she consistently chose her boyfriend and his kids over my brother and I, it drives me crazy that to this day my mother will never apologize or admit to making any mistake. In her eyes my brother and I just try and attack her and she plays the victim. I don't really talk to my mom anymore because every time we talk my frustration with her choices is displayed through my mannerism and we just end up fighting.

But one thing a friend told me has put my mind to ease a little. Think of things this way; what your mother says to you is much more significant than what you say to her. She has been in your life YOUR WHOLE LIFE, where on the other hand you have only been in her life most likely a third of her life or so. So the things you say to her will never resonate as much with her as the things she says to you. I

  • by Anon
  • 1 year ago

I am in the same situation, and my mother sees nothing wrong with it. I'm called the selfish one, I'm overreacting, I want her to be alone for the rest of her life. I just feel so sad and hurt.

  • by Lulu, Alberta
  • 7 years ago

This poem echoes my thoughts. My Mom's partner sexually abused me for 2 yrs from age 11. At age 18, I finally told her. She didn't believe me--until we trapped him into admitting it. She later married him, so I felt like she chose him over me, and I think she blames me. He was an alcoholic and womanizer. I recently left a 19-yr marriage because of abuse, and guess whose side Mom took? Not mine. Her heart of compassion is for strangers--not family.

  • by Brittany
  • 7 years ago

Wow! I ask myself the same questions all the time. I look at my own daughters and vow to never let our relationship turn out the way me and my mom's did. The worst part is that she won't even admit to any wrongdoing. Drives me nuts. I completely cut her out of my life. My kids don't know her and they never will. I love my kids too much to expose them to her. Thanks for the poem, nice to know there are others out there experiencing the same things. No one should be mother-less...

  • by Cindy
  • 8 years ago

This sums up my daughter who walked out on her daughter whom we are raising.

  • by Mel Mc Farlane
  • 8 years ago

this is sad but its so true, my mum did that to me when I was 15, replaced by a new partner and that was the end of me and my mum, as much as I cried and screamed out to her she just turned the other way, till the point I turned all my hurt and pain into hate and rage and she wonders why. I've been battling her for nearly 15 years and she simply doesn't care, why have kids I ask myself each and every day

  • by Crystal
  • 9 years ago

I was always my mother's little girl. Sure she liked to party and sleep around but she was still my mother. Then she married a guy she had only known for a few months. I did not like the guy because of how he treated her. Then on my tenth birthday she gave me to my aunt and uncle, because I had told her of my feelings. I haven't seen her in over two years, but what I hear is that he still beats her. I just don't understand why someone could live this way.

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