My Soulmate

• by John T Ellis
• 3 months ago

I lost my beloved wife less than three weeks ago to Cancer, and the pain of her loss is agony at times. We were married 53 wonderful years and together 55 years total. She was one of the most kind and caring persons I have met, She was a NICU nurse for 42 years and to her it was dedication not a job. The poem was nice but I am still in the coping stage of grief. She retired eleven years ago, but when the staff at the hospital she worked at heard of her passing they sent two cards filled out with condolences from about 50 people They called her "The Baby Whisperer". I will survive her being temporarily away from me but look forward to when I can be with her again.

• by Gary L Tomsik, Mesa, Arizona
• 5 months ago

My Wife and I were married for 36 years, 4 months and 12 days. She passed on August 15 2023 from cancer. It was so hard for me to watch her get weaker and get more and dependent on me. I felt so helpless and scared. I'm 8 years older than she was and I was sure I would leave this earth first. Your poem My Soulmate is so true, I feel this way everyday since she left me, sometimes I think it's all a terrible dream and someday she'll be home again.

• by Aliur R Khan, Warren, MI
• 1 year ago

It's such a heartbreaking poem. I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Every single word touched me so much. It's amazing! It's beautiful!

• by Beryl L Edmonds, United Kingdom
• 1 year ago

John, your love shines through every line of this wonderful poem and I'm sure that in heaven every word is heard... Beryl

• by Willie L Woodson, Jr
• 2 years ago

My dear wife Eunice Marie Woodson passed away on October 20, 2021, and she died after a courageous battle with Stage 4 lung cancer. It has barely been a month, but I still grieve as if it happened yesterday. Today will be a bittersweet Thanksgiving as it will be the first time in 29 years I have been without my dear wife. I am happy I found this website and the poems are all nice.

• by Paul Ziemnicki
• 2 years ago

To Gary Boyce, I know how you feel. I lost my wife February 9, 2021, four days after 73rd birthday. We found out she had appendix cancer 3 months after she retired. Appendix cancer is very rare - 1 case in a million...600 cases a year in the US. How's that for luck? Most of her friends deserted her. Her family doesn't even mention her name. It's been 8 months since she passed.

• by Mickey Corton
• 2 years ago

Hi John. Thank you for this poem. Everything in it is how I am feeling right now. I lost my wife in June of this year. Just 3 days short of her 28th birthday and just 3 days after my 33rd birthday. We got married in December of last year and I've only known her since 2017. She was a single mother to a handsome child who is now 9 years old.

I love them both and I miss her so much. She was my first. Not a day goes by where I wish to wake up from a BAD DREAM. Being a Christian myself, I don't understand how this could be God's plan. So many "why's", a lot of confusion and a load of pain. Almost 3 months since she passed, but I still cry like it happened yesterday. I'd give everything to have her back. Again, thank you for this poem.

• by Emma Miller
• 2 years ago

This has touched me. I had a elderly gentleman come into my store July 29, 2021. He usually tells me an Ole and Lena joke. I just got back on the clock, and he specifically asked for me because we instantly connected. Anyway, he said that his wife just died on July 18, 2021, with Alzheimer's disease. He gave me a good hard handshake and started to tell me he was shedding a tear. I was also shedding a tear for the gentleman just to pay my respect to the man and his family. I could not keep it together. Some of my other customers were asking me if I was okay. I said I will be fine but thanks for asking. It's hard when that came through. I'm still in the process of losing my mother-in-law from COVID-19 and she had no underlying health issues. This poem is definitely the one I will read to him today and tell him she's always with you no matter what.

• by John Gonzales
• 3 years ago

Your poem really touched me this morning. I lost my beautiful wife 5 months ago. We were married for 24 years, together for 28 years. She was my one and only. I miss her every day. We had been together since we were 18 years old. Again, thank you!

• by Derrick Whitney
• 3 years ago

I have just lost my soulmate and love of my life to this virus. We were together 46 years and married for 38 years. She caught a chest infection back in December 2020, which did not clear up properly. It reared its head again January 2021. It got so bad I called the ambulance at 2130 Thursday 14 January 2021. They took her in. Whilst there, they found out she had Covid. The chest infection was masking her symptoms. She was fighting for her life, but this was one fight she did not win and died in my arms 17.15 16/1/21. I cannot believe it happened so quickly. My life is now so empty. Just doing normal daily things is a struggle. I wish they got it wrong and she will come through the front door to say she had only gone shopping. It hurts like hell.

• by Susan Yang
• 3 years ago

I lost my husband 13 years ago, and it's still fresh like yesterday when I think about him. Life has not been the same anymore. I do not do the things we used to do. I miss him every day.

• by Chris
• 3 years ago

This is true. I was with my wife for 20 years we were high school sweethearts, and I am so thankful for the time we had. My wife was gorgeous. Her laugh was contagious, it hurts so badly. We went everywhere together. Even if it was to get milk, we would be holding hands and talking like we first met. It’s so extremely hard to move on. I can’t even make the simplest decision. It gets worse. We have five children, and the youngest is 2. My son seems to be struggling the most. It’s so hard! Time heals all wounds is full of crap because it only makes my heartbreak worse. The longest we went without each other was when I was at work, so we were always be each other’s side. What I wouldn’t do to hold her and have her hair in my face. I would never let go. Why did the love of my life have to leave?

• by Peter Fletcher
• 3 years ago

Gary, I am nearing the 4th Anniversary of my wife's passing with Ovarian cancer. I still feel the loss today as much as I did then. Your family will help as does mine, but nothing can take the place of your loss. Be strong and eventually we will learn to live with it but not get over it.
Keep safe, Peter

• by Luanne
• 3 years ago

I read your poem and your stories and was touched by them. In this day and age of
Sky high divorce rates and no one hanging around if things get rough and everyone out for themselves. It's amazing to hear how much love you all have for you wives and sadly how much you miss her. I can only offer that your wives have been blessed to love and be loved so fully and your love should remind all who read your stories what life and loving is all about.
May we all be loved and love and missed that much.

• by Sterling O. Silver
• 3 years ago

Although I have never experienced loss of a loved one through death, I have experienced it through deceit. I'm not sure one can be placed above or below the other. Both give a loss that cannot be healed. I suppose that deceit would offer more pain in the beginning, but over time, it offers realization of the benefits it provided. Thoughts of what might have been or could have been lost.

I feel your pain, my loss was not through death, but it could have been as we shared hopes and dreams over more than a decade....all proving to be naught. I still pray for her, but I guess the only REAL difference is that I may, foolishly, have the opportunity to start again with the same person, never knowing what may lie ahead.

God bless you my friend. Your partner rests in peace and your memories are pleasant.

• by Alvin F. Midgette
• 3 years ago

My wife and I met at North Carolina Central University in 1965. We married on May 18, 1968 and raised four children. In 2014, she was diagnosed with dementia with the Alzheimer strait. She died on June 20, 2019, after 51 years of marriage. Sandra was definitely my soulmate and my dear friend. We were a strong Christian couple that believed in God. Sandra was a high school computer teacher, and I became a mental health consultant. Truly, I miss and loved her dearly. She was the catalyst that held our family together, and if one of the threads became unraveled from the family cloth, she knew how to rejoin the full family back together. Sandra will always be a part of my life as I continue to strive to be a great father and a strong man. Be blessed to all.

• by Raj Verma
• 4 years ago

I lost my wife 5 months ago. We had a loving marriage. My wife was only 25. The reason for her death was dengue. It attacked her brain. We were only married 1 year and 6 months. I lost my happiness. All my dreams are destroyed.

• by Scott Joslin
• 4 years ago

My wife of 14 years, Heather, passed away this past Thursday morning. She had been fighting against Lupus for most of her life and succumbed to heart complications. This poem truly touched me and just helped me to realize I'm not alone in feeling the way I do. I've lost both of my parents but was not prepared for the hurt of losing my wife. She was only 41. At the age of 37 I'm not sure how much more loss I can endure in this lifetime. Thank you for sharing this poem!

• by Peter Fletcher
• 4 years ago

I lost my wife November 2016 from Ovarian Cancer. I never knew it was called the silent killer. She entered the hospital and passed away 5 weeks later, suffering terribly. We were married 10 days short of 39 years and were together 42 years. She was only 60, a non-smoker or drinker, kind and generous. Why her, I ask. We thought our retirement would be a great future for us both. I feel robbed and miss her so much. I still talk to her and visit her grave every Sunday and sometimes during the week. I can't believe this illness cannot be diagnosed earlier somehow. I would not wish this terrible disease on anybody. My life will never be the same again, I suggest that anyone who has lost someone like myself listen to the song by Willie Nelson on Amazon music called She Is Gone. I listen to it often and it helps me. I don't think my life will ever be the same again. -Peter

• by Joseph Arpino Sr
• 4 years ago

John thanks for the poem you wrote about your soulmate. I am sure it was very difficult to put into words how you felt about her. I have also lost my soulmate recently (August 23, 2019). We had been married for 52 years and knew each other for 54 years. I have 4 children, 7 grandchildren, and 2 great grandchildren. They all try and keep me busy to keep my mind occupied, but they can't be with me 24/7. Being home alone and going to bed and waking up in the morning is the most painful and difficult times of all. I attend a bereavement group once a week, and we are able to talk about how our week had gone. It does seem to help. We had discovered my wife's illness on Christmas Eve of 2017. Soon after, we started all the testing that she needed and found out that she had a form of liver cancer. All through 2018 and up until July of 2019 we tried every type of treatment that was available. So to say my wife was my soulmate is an understatement. When she died, a part of me died too.

• by Michael Stevens
• 4 years ago

I just lost my wife to dementia and acute kidney injury. I have felt pain, but this pain is ripping me apart, knowing that I will not see her again. We were married for forty-four years this year on July 19th. And her birthday would have been on October 16, age 64. In the last few years she went through hell and back. I went on that journey with all the hurt and pain, but she never complained once. We had a lovely life together. We had our ups and downs, but we worked through them, and they made us stronger. It feels like there is nothing to live for. I would not have changed anything about her. She was just perfect. We have the funeral next week. I don't know how I am going to cope. It seems like a bad dream and that when I wake up she will be there lying next to me.

• by Morgan M. Nyanga
• 4 years ago

Thank you. I am touched by the poem above as I am going through the same thing.

• by Gary Boyce
• 5 years ago

Thanks John-
How have you done it 8 years? At 6 months, I cannot fathom tacking on years to this? I am 64-65 in May. Sure, we all know the alternative and for some reason we were "allowed" to remain behind to suffer- it's sure not to prosper- those were supposed to be our times. We were entering our prospering times together but were robbed. My dad passed at age 57. My mom lived to 92, and all I do is dread the thought of such a long wait. No God, that can't possibly be. I don't want to be old and feeble without my wife. She was supposed to be with me, watching me fade first. Frankly, I am ready now. That's not just words. I would be fine passing on the legacy of our love and devotion to our children. How I so envy those in the stories of their loved one dying and the other passes only days later in heartbreak. How wonderful it must be to almost be trailing your loved one to your afterlife together! My heart and soul were completely broken, so why am I getting through? This now is merely life-not living!

• by Ajinder Virdee
• 5 years ago

My wife left my side 5 weeks ago at the young age of 56. She had a GIST tumor. I was with her for 40 years, and we had so many plans and things to do, and now that's gone and my life is empty. I talk to her every day and every night and wait for her to answer me. I want to hold her a tell her how much I love and miss her. I want to take her hand and walk to the shops like we used to do. I want to tell her I will keep her safe and everything will be okay. I sit in our house and she's all around me. She was kind to everyone and pure and innocent, and I was so lucky to have her in my life for 40 years. I look forward to my time and us being reunited. I hope to hold her, I hope to kiss her. I hope see her face. I hope.

• by Thomas Gallegos
• 7 years ago

I lost my wife, my love, my best friend, my partner of 30 years, all at one time, four days before Valentine's Day and a lifetime too soon. She was beautiful, both inside and out, and much too young (57) to leave this world. She died as a result of ovarian cancer, a terrible disease. Your poem struck a chord within me - I tell her how much I love her every day, even if she doesn't answer me, and I feel her presence throughout the day although I can't touch her. Why God took her is difficult for me to comprehend. She was such a good person to everyone who met her. The nights have been especially difficult without her. I can't imagine how I will ever fill the void I feel today. I'm told it will take time to heal. But, I don't know if I will have enough time.