Strained Mother-Child Relationships

Published: June 2018

Strained Mother-Child Poems

19 Strained Mother-Child Poems

Some mother-child relationships are strained or tense. Wounds exist that create frustration, anger, and distance. Poems in this collection are about navigating troublesome relationships between mothers and daughters and mothers and sons.

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    I was only 15 months old when my mom left me. My dad wouldn't let me spend the night with her until I was 5 because she would always take me to someone else's house and leave me there. I cry sometimes still, but I have another mom who is much better.

    You Left Me For No Reason

    in Abandonment Poems by Teens

    You had me, you left me, you never cared.
    I was your second child and still you weren't prepared.

    On the lonely nights when I was sad,
    You were the one who made me feel bad.

    You were never there to wipe my tears.
    You weren't there for me throughout the years.

    When I was lonely, you weren't there.
    I guess that's because you didn't care.

    I could never forgive you for what you did,
    Because sometimes I wished I was dead.

    Without a mother, I was lost and confused.
    If parenting were a contest, you would lose.

    Call me or write me, you never did.
    How could you do that to your own kid?

    You had me, you left me, you never cared,
    You are the reason that I was scared.

    All those days that I've been upset
    Will soon become your biggest regret.

    You never even called just to say hi.
    You never even called just to say goodbye.

    Years and years passed and still no word.
    The words I love you I never heard.

    When I was sick, you didn't comfort me.
    When I was hurt, you didn't bandage me.

    I don't want you to be a part of my life,
    No matter how many times you apologize.

    I'm just gonna pretend like you didn't even exist,
    Because you didn't even give me one last kiss.

    You had me, you left me, you never cared.
    My most important memories we never shared.

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    I am a mother hurting and trying to regain my daughter's love. I wrote this poem from my heart and find poetry a very satisfying way to get my feelings out. This is the first poem I have ever really worked hard on and actually finished. Thanks for reading it.

    Love At Last

    • By Peggy Liimatta
    • Published: April 2008
    Poem From Mom Who Wants Her Daughter's Love

    in Mother Daughter Poems

    I remember the good times
    that we once had...
    but still my life
    is oh...so sad

    I try to look forward,
    but my mind goes back...
    because a piece of the glass
    on our portrait is cracked.

    I try so hard to protect the glass.
    I won't let it shatter...
    Because you and your love
    are all that matters.

    My family is all
    that means anything to me.
    Still...everything always
    gets blamed on me.

    This happens to moms
    all over the world.
    We're supposed to be perfect;
    we learn this as girls.

    I have never been great
    or the "best of moms"...
    And at times I've failed
    by the things I've done wrong.

    For those things, I am sorry.
    I didn't want you to cry...
    but please remember
    my eyes are not dry.

    I hope you can find
    our love that seems lost.
    For the mistakes I have made
    came at a very high cost.

    A piece of my life,
    is missing and gone.
    And everything feels
    Oh so wrong.

    But there is one thing
    that I can do.
    I will try to be strong
    just for you.

    One thing I feel
    down deep in my heart.
    It's my love for you.
    I guess that's a start.

    You have a new son
    now growing inside.
    And I hope that you feel
    each of his kicks with pride.

    You will feel love
    like never before.
    It is your family
    you will completely adore.

    It's a new beginning.
    you will forget the past.
    It completes you as a woman.
    It will be "love at last."

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    A girl expresses anguish that her mom is no longer in her life, and tells her mom, "I still love you and want you back."

    I Don't Want Any Other

    • By Ashley N. Hoppes
    • Published: February 2006
    Mom, Please Come Back Into My Life Poem

    in Mother Daughter Poems

    Our life has not been easy.
    We've managed to drift apart.

    But whatever it's worth,
    Know you're always in my heart.

    Not a day goes by
    When I don't wish we'd talk.

    To say hello or goodbye
    Or maybe go for a walk.

    You're missing important days.
    I'm not a girl anymore.

    It's a difficult maze
    Every time my heart's torn.

    There are times I need you
    To be there for me.

    That nurturing statue,
    If only you could be.

    It's not you I blame
    For the way we are.

    But all the hurtful shame
    Left an invisible scar.

    Sometimes I feel trapped;
    I don't know what to do.

    Does God have our life mapped.
    Help me sail across the blue!

    Why can't we mend this?
    We both love each other.

    I'm not sure about sis,
    But I miss my mother.

    I hope you understand
    Why it's so hard to call.

    I have the phone in my hand,
    But it seems to always fall.

    For now I'll hope and pray
    For you to come around.

    That would be the day
    When the new us is found.

    I still love you
    And still want you to be my mother.

    Regardless of what we've been through,
    I don't want any other.

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    Pain between mother and daughter. She can't make her understand; she can only say what she thinks and hope for the best.

    The Way I Feel

    • By Stacy K. Pickering
    • Published: February 2006
    Fighting Between Mother And Daughter

    in Mother Daughter Poems

    I feel so much hurt
    I feel so much pain
    I feel like I don't have anyone
    I feel like I want to cry but can't
    I feel so lonely
    I feel so empty
    I feel like my angel has left me

    So much pain
    So little time
    So much hurt inside
    I don't know what to say
    I don't know how to act

    My sunshine has left
    My skies have turned gray
    My world is black
    My eyes are dry
    I'm not my mom's little girl
    I'm just her friend
    I will always love her
    Even if she doesn't love me back

    So much hurt
    So much pain
    So little time

    I'm getting older
    And understanding more
    You are getting older
    And understanding less

    So much hurt
    So much pain
    So little time

    I'm going to live on my own soon
    And you are too
    I'm not going to be here for you much longer
    And you are left all alone

    So much hurt
    So much pain
    So little time

    The choices you make are not right
    You are hurting everyone, even me
    You tell me you care
    But I know you don't
    I once was your little girl; now I'm not

    So much hurt
    So much pain
    So little time

    I can tell in his eyes
    That he will hurt you again
    So much fire in his eyes
    So much hate waiting to release
    No one can stop you, not even me
    But he can stop you in the end

    So much hurt
    So much pain
    So little time

    When you go I will cry
    And I think back and see your face
    You should have listened to me
    When things went wrong
    When you are gone I will think
    About how much pain he caused
    And how much hurt he made you feel
    And how much you hurt me
    So little time before he hurts more and you will die

    So much hurt
    So much pain
    So little time

    I love you in my heart
    And that will never change
    I will always be here
    until that day when you are gone
    So many chances
    So many different ways
    So many tears
    And not enough thoughts
    So much for me to tell you how I feel
    But never enough time

    So much hurt
    So much pain
    So little time

    Done By: Stacy Pickering
    Date: April 20th 2004

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    Do You Have An Answer?

    Absent Mother Poem

    in Mother Daughter Poems

    Why did you do the things you did?
    Why did you say the things you said?
    Why did you change who you are?
    Why did you choose a man over your own daughter?
    Why did you hurt me?
    Why did you break my heart?
    Why did you betray me?
    Why did you break your promises?
    Why did you have to break up our once "happy family" apart?
    Why are you so evil?
    Why weren't you there for me?
    Why!?

    Where were you when I needed you?
    Where were you when I was sick?
    Where were you when I cried?
    Where were you when I was sad?
    Where were you when I needed help?
    Where were you when I was scared?
    Where were you when I was troubled?
    Where were you when I had no one?
    Where were you when I needed a mother?
    Where were you!?

    What happened to my mother?
    What is wrong with you?
    What do you think of?
    What are you doing?
    What is more important than me?

    When are you going to go back to being the mother I once had?
    When will you realize what you've done?
    When will you take off that blindfold you have?
    When will you care?
    When!?

    Who was there for me when I needed someone...not you!
    Who did I go to when I needed help...not you!
    Who always encouraged me to do better...not you!
    Who was there to wipe my tears away...not you!
    Who taught me right from wrong...not you!
    Who helped me overcome my fears...not you!
    Who showed me the love I needed...not you!

    Because of you, it's hard for me to love another person.
    Because of you, it's hard for me to have faith in people.
    Because of you, it's hard for me trust a soul.
    Because of you, I must remain a motherless daughter.
    Because of you, it's hard for me to open my heart to others.
    Because of you, it's hard for me to believe someone when they say, "I love you."
    All because of you!

    See what you've done to me!

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    Do mothers realize the affect they have on their daughters?

    Mommy Dearest

    • By Amy R. Addington
    • Published: February 2006
    Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Poem

    in Mother Daughter Poems

    She is my mother,
    that indomitable, unattainable goal.
    A woman of iron and silk and unforgiving praise.
    She is the measure of all that
    I will never be.
    She sees me and looks right through me.
    She loves me with a barbed wire heart,
    chaining me to a relentless yearning
    of approval.
    I will beat my head
    endlessly against a brick wall
    if you simply say you love me,
    say you're proud of me,
    say I'm good.
    All measure of self-worth is wrapped
    in the one woman who loves me enough
    to tear me apart.

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    Not receiving the love that one needs from their mother.

    I Needed You

    Not Getting Love From Mother

    in Angry Poems about Family

    When I was sad and depressed,
    I needed you to be cheer me up.
    Instead, I drank till I was numb enough not to feel anything.

    When everyone was attacking me and putting me down, making me feel so low,
    I needed you to be the one to defend me and be on my side.
    Instead, I endured all the cruel words and criticism the world threw at me.

    When I lost all my friends and had no one,
    I needed you to be that only friend I had left.
    Instead, I experienced what the word "friendless" really meant.

    When I was scared and frightened,
    I needed you to be my security blanket.
    Instead, I had to live in fear.

    When I was angry and full of rage,
    I needed you to calm me down.
    Instead, I kept it all bottled up inside.

    When I felt so lonely and needed someone to care,
    I needed you to hold me tight and never let me go.
    Instead, I grew up alone with no one to turn to.

    When I was hurt and in pain,
    I needed you to come running with you healing ways.
    Instead, I remained scarred and bruised.

    When I would inflict self-torture, wanting to die,
    I needed you to stop me and tell me how important I was.
    Instead, I hid my scars and became oblivious to everyone.

    When I would cry myself to sleep at night,
    I needed you to wipe the tears away.
    Instead, I held my pillow tight while never-ending tears streamed down my face.

    When my world was crashing down on me,
    I needed you to be the one I ran to.
    Instead, I locked myself in my room in complete despair.

    When I felt unloved,
    I needed you to tell me how much you loved me.
    Instead, I learned the words "I love you" are meaningless.

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    A mother leaves her child with her father. Years later, her daughter shares her feelings of pain and betrayal.

    I Don't Need You

    • By Jennifer J. Austin
    • Published: February 2006
    Poem About Mother Leaving

    in Mother Child Poems

    What do you expect me to do or say after you up and left, treating me this way?
    What do you expect me to think now, when the only thing I want to know is how?
    How could you walk away, just turn your back on me?
    What is it you think your lies will help me see?
    How can you sit so far away and blame things on my dad?
    It's your fault; you left, and he's all I had.
    Did you never look back or hug me good-bye?
    Why didn't it hurt you to see me cry?
    Even though you'll never see my tears, I've been silently crying for the past 15 years.
    You never saw me in my Kindergarten play, but I guess it's better off that way.
    You never saw me go to my first school dance; you'll never see it now, and you blew that chance.
    You weren't there to help me get over my first true love, but without you I still managed to rise above.
    Did you share in the joy of my graduation? Because that was a true celebration.
    I've grown up before everyone's eyes, except yours; you don't see that kind of thing behind closed doors.
    So I will continue to smile and move on without you, while you sit there and do whatever it is you do.
    Because it's too late to be mommy! I'm all grown up now, and I'm making it somehow.
    And I'll continue to make it through, just like any other day without you.

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    A daughter asks her mother for forgiveness.

    No Greater Love

    • By Ann Coren
    • Published: February 2006
    Asking Mother For Forgiveness

    in Mother Daughter Poems

    I caused you a lot pain and I didn't care, but you still loved me.
    Please forgive me, Mama.

    I hurt you in so many ways, but you were always there for me.
    Please forgive me, Mama.

    When you gave me advice, I didn't listen and I have so many regrets.
    Please forgive me, Mama.

    If I knew then what I know now, I would have told you everyday how much I loved you.
    Please forgive me, Mama

    When you were growing older, I didn't want to hear about your aches and pains.
    You waited for my calls and visits that never came.

    I always made excuses why I couldn't be there for you.
    Please forgive me, Mama.

    I know now there is no greater love like your love Mama,
    and how much I need you right now to hold me and kiss me and tell me you forgive me.

    Now that I am older and my health is failing,
    I realize why I should have been there for you when you needed me.
    Please forgive me, Mama.

    I need you now, Mama.
    How I long to see your beautiful smile and feel your loving touch
    and tell me everything will be all right like you used to.
    Please forgive me, Mama.

    Can you hear me, Mama, as I kneel here beside your grave?
    Can you hear what I am saying?
    Can you hear how much I love you and how much I miss you?

    I don't know when the good Lord is coming for me,
    but I hope you will be waiting so I can hug you and hold you in my arms
    and tell you how much I love you.

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    The relationship with my mother has taken a hard fall and we no longer speak.

    Time Can't Heal

    Mother-Daughter Relationship Poem

    in Hard Times Poems

    Time can't heal pain that won't mend.
    The suffering, the heart ache,
    It feels like the end.
    Grasping a hold of a moving change,
    Trying to pick up pieces to put the puzzle back together,
    For nothing can last forever.
    Grudges are held...never letting go
    Feelings are hurt...but they wouldn't listen,
    But behind every fight there is a reason why.
    The one you love didn't make it to your future
    And why they didn't try.

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    A daughter shares her sadness that her friendship with her mother has been severed. Her mother betrayed their friendship and things will never be the same.

    Why Did It Turn Out Like This?

    • By Rebecca E. Pitt
    • Published: February 2006
    Poem About A Fight Between Mother And Daughter

    in Mother Daughter Poems

    We used to be inseparable.
    Nothing could tear us apart.
    You were my idol.
    I looked up to you for my support.
    You showed me how to be a real person
    And to always show my true colors,
    And then came the day when you left me deserted and alone.
    I felt so betrayed I didn't know where to turn.
    I felt so abandoned in this cold and desolate world.
    I turned to ask you for help, but you were nowhere to be found.
    I saw your face in my tears that fell to the ground.
    I felt like my heart had been ripped out and dropped to the ground,
    But I still wanted to run after you and drag your love back to me.
    I searched all over and neither you nor your love was to be found.
    The agony I felt was indescribable to anybody in this world.
    The only thing I kept thinking was how could you do this to me and why are you gone?
    I wanted to tell you I love you and I didn't want to let you go,
    But you just turned your head and laughed at what I said,
    So I gave up and moved on because your love for me was gone.
    All of this because of my own mom...

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    A girl wishes that her mother had been there for her while she was growing up. Her mom missed all the special experiences that they could have shared together.

    I Wish

    • By Reba N. Mills
    • Published: February 2006
    Poem About A Mother Absent From Her Daughter's Life

    in Mother Child Poems

    I wish you were here with me
    I wish you were here every day,
    To hug me, to ask me if I'm doing okay.
    I wish you were here when I got my first doll
    So you could join us at the Town Square Ball.
    I wish you were here when I played dress up
    So I could get into tons of trouble with your make up.
    I wish you were here to see me through high school.
    Then maybe you would know that I am not a fool.
    I know it's okay that you are not here with me,
    Because everywhere I go, there God will be.
    It's okay not to have a mother.
    Every day I still go a little further.
    One day I will have my own little girl.
    We will laugh, dance, run, and twirl.
    Into the evening we will drink lemonade on the porch swing.
    I will teach her how to be a mother
    Because one day she will have her own daughter.
    I wish you were here with me
    Watching, so you could see what a good mother I will be.

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    It's about the pain my mom gives me.

    Listen Up

    I Just Want My Mom Back

    in Mother Daughter Poems

    Mom, will you sit down
    To listen what I have to say?
    We can be in the same room
    And be miles and miles away.
    We are not a happy family anymore.
    Do you think you can fix this?
    You can't
    'Cause you are never home.
    Do you still remember my face?
    Do you think a father figure will help?
    It won't; I already have one.
    I don't want another.
    You can marry a million guys.
    We still won't be a happy family.
    Do you notice I'm slipping away?
    Do you notice the scars on my arms?
    I'm doing crazy stuff just so you will notice me,
    But the thing is I just want my mom back.
    I want my best friend.
    I just want to go back
    Where I told you everything.
    Is that possible?
    All the tears I've cried,
    I just want my mom back!

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    My mom and I fight a lot, and each time it hurts. I try and try to prove I'm enough for her but she only brings me down. My friends help pick me up, but it doesn't last long. She always tries to change me for her liking. Trying to make me into another her. At night I cry for hours just wishing I was enough for my mom to be proud of me. Instead she's ashamed of me. I always hear "Why cant you be like him/her?" My mom always notices my faults rather then the good in me. It just hurts.

    Yearning For Approval From Mom

    • By Cristin Gomez
    • Published: September 2011

    in Mom Poems by Teens

    Days go by we haven't talked
    The silence between us grows
    And inside I yell why can't you love me for me?
    She might be deaf and blind too
    Tears come out to greet her
    She doesn't care to ask "are you OK?"

    I need her to acceptance
    But she only wants to change me
    When she speaks my way
    Her words cause me harm

    When I need her I'm afraid to talk
    She says it's the truth
    Her truth is only biased
    She doesn't see the good in me
    She only sees the bad

    She compares and compares
    When I succeed and other fail
    She speaks no appreciation
    When I fail and others succeed
    Here comes hurt to welcome me
    Then the tears come out

    Can't she see that I try my best
    I work my hardest to please her
    Mother when will you see?
    Or will you chose to stay blinded by my efforts?

    You make me feel unwanted
    You make me feel like I'm not enough
    You praise my brother
    You're ashamed of me
    When will I be good enough?

    Once I'm gone I'm not coming back
    Maybe then you'll realize I tried my best for you
    But you just wouldn't see
    I'm not a little girl
    But I'm not yet a woman
    I'm a teen who needs a supportive mom

    We might have days or even weeks
    Where we get along just fine
    But you find any little excuse
    To tear us down

    I need you to love me for me
    Not for the achievements I get
    You hurt me so much
    You make me afraid to love
    You make me afraid of being hurt by others

    I know it shouldn't bother me
    But you gave birth to me
    Mother I yearn for you to love me for me
    When will you show me that I am good enough?
    I will always yearn for your approval.

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